On being, disappearing, and becoming: A journey of surrender

This paper attempts to demonstrate the vast importance of the non-being experience in the human psyche. Both from an intra-psychic and an intersubjective perspective, the experience of non-being and of disappearing, and the soul's surrender to this experience, are essential for the creation of the self and of relations. The first part of the paper tries to emphasize, from an intra-psychic perspective, the way presence, when disconnected from the presence-absence dialectic, can become reified and thus lead to what is termed "presence anxiety." The self's will to surrender to the no-thing is a prerequisite to change. The second part presents intersubjectivity as the movement between multiple I-You creations whose essence is the movement between being and not-being. The way two people create, experience, recognize, shape, love, and hate, each other, is based upon their mutual and conjoined movement between presence and absence, the movement of surrender. Furthermore, the most inner sanctuary core of surrender is its infinite quality, and the most sanctuary core of infinity is absence, the essential ingredient that differentiates being from becoming.